You

Maybe no word could describe how I feel
But my dear this feeling i have is real
Let me hold you tight even in your dreams
And every gold i will give for our existence to be real.

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IF BY RUDYARD KIPLING

Today I was going through some of my dad’s books and I found this wonderful poem writing by Rudyard Kipling tittled IF
I hope you all enjoy it and drop your comments about what you learned in this poem

It inspires, it motivates and i love it.

I hope you enjoy it also

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you are lossing theirs and blaming it on you
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

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THE WALL AND THE BRIDGE

The wall and the bridge
One of the most beautiful spoken words I have always love
By dike chukuemereji
Dike Chukwumerije is a Nigerian spoken word and performance poetry artist and an award-winning author. The wall and the bridge If a white man turned and called  me “nigger”,My blood will boil in righteous anger.For the evil of discrimination is clearly established,When a white man tries to treat me like rubbish.But if Hausas say Igbos are greedy and crudeAnd Igbos say Hausa are haughty and rudeAnd the Ijaws say Itsekiri must die todayAnd Ezza tells  Ezilo, there is no other wayIf Yorubas declare it is Awo or nothingAnd we use “Federal character” to share everythingSo before you can even smile and tell me “Welcome”,You must first ask me where my father is from.If those who were settlers but now indigenes,Say those who are settlers can’t become indigenes,And the constitution says we are all citizensLocal government keeps issuing certificates of originIf my brother pass Jamb but can’t go to Uni,Because he is Tiv and he is not KanuriAnd Unimed has a quota for his catchment areaSo he must go back to Benue or wait one more year.If it’s ok to say it’s not ok to marry someoneJust because they are KalabariThat every tribe should have its own tideAre we not then practicing …Apartheid?If you cannot buy land unless you are native,And cannot find work unless you are native,And cannot feel safe unless you are native,How can we then say we are not primitive?Yet, you go to London and get their passport,Then settle wherever and however you want,You stand there and fight for equalityBut come back and start to use ethnicity.
I don’t get the logic of thinking of it is differentto be tribalistic and then to be racist,If you are happy to judge him just hearing his name,Whatever you call it my friend, it’s the same.When there is no courage to cross this divide,When there is no faith to look deep insideAnd stop judging accents and surnames and dressingThis fire we are quenching would only keep burning.Which nation can stand dividing its people?How can one build on foundation so brittle?If we cannot see ourselves in each otherThis journey ends here we are going no further.For when God made man, he gave him no facial marksHe did not make “Gbagi”, “Okun” or “Angas”As sure as a black man is just like a white man,No culture is older than being humanThis is the truth until we accept it,Our nation would stumble on its broken feet.For the same things that can bind us that drives us apart,For the wall and the bridge are both in the heart.

Happy independent to my country Nigeria

Lord we have all sinned
And fallen short of your glory
Look with pity on us
And grant us forgiveness
And the grace to pick up
The strands and rebuild ourselves
And especially this our country
In a spirit of self-abnegation
And unalloyed patriotism
So that those who trail
After us may have a heritage
Worthy of a people that you cherish.Lord bless and protect us from all harm
As we make frantic efforts to contribute
Towards more self-realizations
And join efforts to build our nation.
Lord make our country anew
Make it the Land of Promise
And the Land of glory
That our forefathers
Conceived and sang.
GOD BLESS NIGERIA
GOD BLESS AFRICA
GOD BLESS THE WORLD

AMEN

CAN FEMINISM CHANGE THE WORLD? YES IT CAN

Despite what you’ve heard, feminism has nothing to do with hating men or discriminating against them. It’s also not about promoting female superiority or dominance of one gender over the other.

In fact, feminism is for everyone – men, boys, girls and women can proudly call themselves feminists because it means believing in the social, political and economic equality of all!
Right now, we need feminism because gender equality has still not been achieved anywhere in the world. Here in Nigeria Gender inequalit is influenced by different cultures and beliefs. In most parts of Nigeria, women are considered subordinate to their male counterparts, especially in northern Nigeria. It is generally believed that women are best suited as home keepers.[

Feminism had not appeared in Nigeria until roughly 40 years ago. This has been attributed to funmilayo ransome kuti. She was born in Nigeria, and was educated through the British schooling system. She supported and fought for women’s rights, as well as for women having a larger impact in the Nigerian government. She was a part of the WIDF women’s international democratic fedration, which helped more women to gain government positions, furthering what she wished to accomplish with women in Nigeria. Ransome-Kuti died in 1978. One of Nigeria’s well-known newspapers referred to her as “a progressive revolutionary” and “a Pan-African visionary.
Here in Nigeria, women still face a gender gap that leads to unequal pay and less opportunities, and in the many countries where we work, gender inequality often limits girl’s and women’s freedom to exercise their basic human rights to education, health and protection. This further perpetuates problematic global issues such as intergenerational cycles of poverty, child marriage, gender-based violence and high maternal and newborn mortality rates.
But through working together – men, boys, women and girls – we can create a just world where everyone has equal rights, opportunities and can reach their full potential!

3 WAYS FEMINISM CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

Feminism is all about gender equality and if we want to ensure that everyone has the same fundamental rights, such as education, healthcare, clean water, sanitation, livelihood and protection, then acknowledging that girls and women are denied these rights simply because of their gender is a crucial first step – we can’t move forward if half the population is held back!

Here are 3 major reasons why feminism can change the world:

1. WHEN GIRLS ARE EDUCATED AND EMPOWERED, THEY UPLIFT THEIR ENTIRE COMMUNITIES

If a girl is empowered with knowledge of her rights, has enough to eat, a safe environment free from gender-based violence, an education, and an opportunity to participate in decisions affecting her life and future, she’ll work to raise the standard of living for herself, her family and her entire community. In fact:

An extra year of primary school boosts girls’ eventual wages by 10 to 20 % and an extra year of secondary school by 15 to 25 %.

When a girl in the developing world receives seven or more years of education, she marries 4 years later and has 2.2 fewer children.

According to some estimates a 1% increase in the level of women’s education generates 0.3% in additional economic growth (in a country).

nd there are many other benefits too.

Mothers reinvest more of their income back into their families. Educated mothers are less at risk of maternal health complications because they are better informed about disease, preventative measures and healthcare access.

In addition, educated mothers provide better nutrition and make better choices about their children’s future. They are also more likely to invest in and emphasize the importance of their children’s education when compared to mothers who did not receive an education.

2. DAMAGING GENDER STEREOTYPES HURT BOYS AND MEN TOO

A lot has been written and researched about how patriarchal societies – and toxic masculinity in particular – negatively affect the lives of girls and women by promoting female subordination, misogyny and sexual violence.

However, it’s also true that traditional ideas of masculinity such as being tough, competitive, aggressive, unemotional and stoic can cause boys and men to suffer too. Statistically, boys and men are more likely to engage in risk-taking behaviors like gang activity, unprotected sex and substance abuse. They also have overall shorter life expectancy rates and a higher rate of completed suicide. These stark realities signify that men and boys also stand to benefit from a world without gendered expectations.

In an equal world, boys and men are free to express themselves and be whoever they want without rigid limitation or fear of being tormented by male peers. For example, a loving stay-at-home dad who is supported by his wife would traditionally be frowned upon as “unmanly” in many parts around the world. In a gender equal world, however, it wouldn’t matter whether a man is a stay-at-home dad or a major executive that brings home a six-figure salary; the only thing that matters is that everyone has the capacity and opportunity to live the lives they want free from judgement and expectation.

3. TRUE EQUALITY UNLEASHES HUMAN POTENTIAL

When girls and women are empowered, humanity is empowered. Gender equality benefits us socially, economically, politically and even psychologically. Recent studies have shown that countries ranking higher on the gender equity scale are actually happier and wealthier too.

And when it comes to ending poverty, equality plays a crucial role. Right now, more than a billion people live on less than a $1.25 per day – 70% of them are women and girls. We can dramatically reduce this number by ensuring access to education, safe healthcare, equal pay and increasing women’s opportunities to succeed in business and own land (worldwide, less than 20% of landholders are women).

Furthermore, achieving gender equality will help reduce harmful practices against women and girls, including sex trafficking, femicide, wartime sexual violence and other oppression tactics such as forced marriage and Female Genital Mutilation (FGM).

Gender equality is intrinsically linked to sustainable development and is vital to the realization of human rights for all. The overall objective of gender equality is a society in which women and men enjoy the same opportunities, rights and obligations in all spheres of life.

The road to true equality is going to be slow and painful, but everyone has a vital role to play in speaking out for change. Together, we can fight for and create a more just and equal world – not just for ourselves but for our children too.

Thank you
And also drop your comments on why feminism can change the world.
Remember
change is possible

it starts with you

HEALTH WAYS TO DEAL WITH AGGRESSIVENESS

Aggression is a behavioral response to anger and can be harmful. This lesson will define aggressive behavior and discuss strategies that can be used to manage aggression in a healthy way and prevent it from resulting in violent behavior.

Road Rage

Aminu has always had difficulty managing his anger. As a teenager, it was not unusual for him to respond aggressively to situations that made him angry. He would frequently put his fist through doors, throw things, and raise his voice defensively. As an adult,  has tried to temper his emotions, but occasionally still falls into old habits.

Last month, aminu was driving to work. He was running late and was irritated at being stuck in traffic. Just as traffic eased up a bit, an elderly man in a Buick cut aminu off and caused him to miss the green light. Aminu was furious! He looked left, then right, and drove straight through the light in pursuit of the Buick. He caught up to the car, pulled in front of it, and slammed on the brakes. The man in the Buick crashed into the back of aminu’s car. Aminu got out, grabbed the man by the throat, and soon thereafter found himself in the back of a police car.

What is Aggression?
Aminu’s road rage is a prime example of aggressive behavior that’s out of control. Aminu’s inability to manage his emotions and anger end up getting him into trouble with the law. Aggression is a behavior that typically stems from anger. Anger is an emotion that is present in all of us.

Like aminu, none of us particularly like being cut off in traffic. Experiencing this event can invoke anger, but unlike aminu, most of us can diffuse this anger without aggressively responding to it. Experiencing anger is normal. It’s how we respond to this anger that determines whether it is adaptive and useful or maladaptive and detrimental. As a general guideline, an aggressive response to anger tends to be maladaptive.

Aggressive behavior can be obvious, such as aminu’s reaction to the driver, or it can be more subtle and hidden. An example of subtle aggression would be deliberately telling lies to hide the truth. In either case, aggressive behavior has significant potential legal consequences.

Healthy Ways of Dealing with Aggression

Because aggressive behavior can have severe consequences, it is important to find healthy ways to deal with aggression. Below are some methods that can help keep aggression in check

Breathe – use deep breathing techniques and meditation to relieve stress and diffuse anger

Force yourself to leave the situation. Take a time out, walk away, and avoid coming back too soon. Take a walk or go for a run.

Use visualization to calm down. Close your eyes and picture yourself in your favorite place.

Count to 10 (or 50… or 100) if you feel like you’re about to do or say something harmful. It’s a quick, easy way to separate yourself mentally from the situation.

Splash some cold water on your face.

Slow down and focus on your breathing. Conscious breathing involves taking slow, deep breaths in through your nose, and slowly out through your mouth.

Phone a friend. Do you have a supportive friend or family member who can lend an ear and calm you down?

Try to replace negative, angry thoughts with positive, rational ones. Even if you’re feeling upset, remind yourself that getting angry isn’t going to fix the way that you’re feeling.

Most importantly

Make time for yourself to de-stress and focus on an activity that makes you happy, whether that’s reading, spending time with friends, or whatever else. Getting enough exercise weekly can also help alleviate stress.

Practice relaxation techniques such as listening to soothing sounds or songs, or doing meditation or yoga.

Keep a journal or log about your anger. Record the feelings you experienced, what factors contributed to your anger and how you responded to it. Try to write down the thoughts that were going through your mind and the time, and then reflect on these instances and see if there’s any sort of pattern to your anger.

Think about the consequences that come with angry outbursts. Is your anger causing strain on your relationship? Scaring your children? Take time to reflect on how your anger could be affecting those around you.

Try to note any other emotions you’re feeling alongside anger. Are you feeling depressed? Frustrated? Confused?

I hope you enjoyed it
please drop your comments and contribution on what makes you aggressive  and what are those healthy things you do to calm your self

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Appreciate the little things in life

What does it mean to appreciate the little things in life?
Appreciating the little things in life involves focusing our attention on what is pleasurable, nurturing, and sustaining in our lives and away from those events that are annoying, frustrating, or hurtful. It means practicing gratitude for those everyday things that are easy to take for granted or miss altogether. Adopting this outlook won’t stop negative events from occurring, but it may help prevent us from over-emphasising their importance in our lives.

What do we know about gratitude?
Gratitude research is a relatively new, but fascinating area of study. The practice of keeping a gratitude journal, further explored below, is one area that has been evaluated. Studies have been conducted in which participants who kept gratitude journals were compared to those who did not or those who kept a record of daily hassles. greater propensity to help others, and even exercising more.

How else will this build my resilience?
Developing skills in experiencing and expressing gratitude can help us connect with others. When we take the time to appreciate an act of kindness from a loved one or even a stranger we become more fully aware of our connectedness within our community, and the positive regard others have for us. Reciprocating these kind actions further cements these social bonds which we then have as a resource to draw on in times of need.

How does positive emotion relate to our mental health?
Positive emotions have been shown to be linked to good physical health. According to some researchers people who experience positive emotions are likely to live longer, enjoy better immune functioning, and recover more effectively from treatment for heart disease. It’s not just our physical resilience that is affected by positive emotions, our psychological wellbeing can be assisted also. Theory has it that when we experience positive emotions we are able to think and behave more creatively and flexibly than when we experience negative emotions. This ‘broadening’ of the way we think and act builds resources for us that we are able to use in more difficult times. Many studies have shown that resilient individuals experience positive emotions and that they use these emotions to help them cope with difficult situations. There are many things we can do to enhance and increase the presence of positive emotions for us. Learning how to appreciate the little things in life is one good way.

What can I do to appreciate the litle things in life?
Here are three ideas you might like to try in order to develop your ability to appreciate the little things in life.

  1. Waking up in a safe, warm place and realizing you are alive, breathing and have a new day in front of you.

  2. Watching the steam coming off of a hot cup of coffee or tea before taking the first sip.

  3. Soft morning light coming through the windows.

  4. The intricate detail of trees and the way they sound blowing in the wind.

  5. The joy and presence of your pets as they go about their day and how happy they are when you give them your attention.

  6. The quiet chatter of other people in a coffee shop, on a train or bus.

  7. When someone genuinely asks how your day is going.

  8. The sound of a loved one’s laughter.

  9. Having access to nutritious, delicious food.

  10. The ability to move, think, read and write.

  11. Efforts our loves once put to see us smile

  12. The calming sensation of watching water flow by.

  13. Hugging a loved one.

  14. Taking a deep breath outside in the evening (no matter the temperature).

That’s my list – what’s yours? In what ways can you appreciate the little things in life? Leave a comment and let me know what makes you slow down and feel happy to be alive.

Happy pills can be dangerous and do more harm than good

Being happy is important but is taking drugs to be happy worth it

Please take your time and let me know if u still want to take happy pills

commonly prescribed in the UK – do more harm than good, researchers claim, and their use should be severely curtailed.

Psychiatrists disputed the latest findings, arguing that they have been safely used for years and offer a lifeline for depressed people. But the study suggests that the risk of death when taking them is much greater than previously thought – among those who do not have heart disease – because they thin the blood.

Scientists at McMaster University in Canada combined the results from 17 previous studies, analysing the impact on nearly 380,000 people. Their analysis suggested just a 9 per cent increased risk of death among those who took antidepressants when compared to those who did not– a result they admitted was not statistically significant. But they then removed the people suffering from cardiovascular disease from the findings, and found the chance of death among the remaining patients jumped to 33 per cent.

Scientists believe this is because antidepressants are also a blood thinner, which protects the health of people with heart disease because it stops blood clotting. However, among people without heart disease, it increases the risk of a major haemorrhage or internal bleeding.

Study leader Paul Andrews said. ‘We are very concerned by these results. They suggest that we shouldn’t be taking antidepressant drugs without understanding precisely how they interact with the body. I think these drugs for most people are doing more harm than good and physicians ought not to generally prescribe them.’

The researchers found that among people who do not have cardiovascular disease, taking antidepressants increased the risk of heart attacks and strokes by 14 per cent.😔

The use of antidepressants is dramatically increasing, with 64.7million prescriptions given out in England last year – double the number of a decade ago.😟

One in 11 of all British adults are thought to have recently used the pills.🤷🏿‍♂️

Professor David Baldwin, a psychiatrist at Southampton University and chairman of the psychopharmacology committee of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, said: ‘Unfortunately this study has major flaws. Depressed patients have higher risks of a range of physical health problems, all of which carry a risk of increased mortality, and antidepressants are often prescribed for a range of problems other than depression, including chronic pain and insomnia which also increase mortality. So with this I hope we now know the dangers of happy pills Let be careful let stay safe and find Better better ways to be happy 💯

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